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Left overs

We know the world is a complicated place, and we know that sometimes when we put our work out there (in whatever form that work might take), it might pass over or transgress into someone else's workspace.

Sometimes, when that type of thing happens, the people who feel you're trampling over their workspace get upset or angry or accuse you of stepping over the line or going into places that were none of your business.

If that happens, or anything like it happens, our immediate reaction is often to get revenge, kick back, bite at them, and show them that we are right and they are wrong.

Perhaps, though, if we have the self-awareness to stop for a minute, there are a few steps we can take to avoid the horrible confrontations that are inevitable in a complex world where people have the inability to stop and always act first.

First, when you find that you've upset someone or that someone has behaved in a way you didn't expect, try to consider it from their point of view.

Secondly, have the self-awareness to look at what you've done and ask yourself whether it was right or, whether it came across the way you wanted or whether it wasn't and whether maybe you should say sorry.

Thirdly, if you're sure that what you did was OK, understand that the other person cannot see the world through your eyes, and therefore, it looks different to them, even though it all looks fine to you. 

Finally, while we all understand that revenge is a dish best served cold, too many leftovers are never good for anyone, so eating cold revenge might be a lot worse than eating no revenge at all.

By Colin Campbell on 03/01/24 18:00