Undoubtedly, there is a time and a place to lose it.
To gain attention, focus, and interaction from other people, it is an extraordinarily effective strategy if used, if not in isolation, then rarely, and with good timing.
The best way to lose it is to plan to lose it, in the face of provocation, in the face of extraordinary resistance to something which (at least to you) seems utterly and entirely reasonable, but there is a catch to this strategy.
It seems to be effective to get attention in the first instance, and so people do it again and again, and again, and again.
It loses its effectiveness each time the ‘story is told’.
Like a child having tantrums in the shop because their parents won't buy them goodies.
The person who loses it regularly loses all respect, all leverage, all ability to make a change.
Sometimes, though, just sometimes, it is the only course of action.
Blog Post Number - 4537
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