Some people subscribe to a principle in endurance training called 90/10. It means that 90% of the time, you cruise along in your sessions, and 10%, you go really, really hard.
If you don't do this, the theory is that you're just training in the grey zone, where you don't really achieve anything apart from trying to be an alpha athlete who goes hard all the time but not hard enough.
The same is true in communications when you want to disagree with someone.
When I was a boy, if you wanted to properly insult someone, you would reinforce the insult "You're a f*ck*ng d*ck, you d*ck".
The second part of the sentence is the reinforcement of the insult; you want the person to understand that you are really pissed off at them.
One of the problems we seem to have in society and in social media is that people do not out themselves as the bully that they actually are.
So, let me give you a few hints and tips in order to be the right bully.
If you choose to bully someone else because of your position of authority and power, make it absolutely clear that's what you're doing. Don't sit in the 90% of low-level bullying; come all the way out and show your cards. That's liable to create the maximum amount of distress and upset and show what you mean.
Trying to do it drip by drip is just annoying when you're looking at posts or people's profiles or things that they do and chipping in here and there, trying to put a little bit of a spanner in the works and then moving along. That's not the way to do it.
If you're going to do it for all our sakes, go on and do it properly.
Show your hand and show it properly.
The problem with not doing this is that we get distracted by your nonsense, and it's really counterproductive.
If I'm going to fight with someone, I'd really like to have the fight out in the open right now and see it; I really can't be doing with this stuff where it drips along and distracts me from doing the work that's actually positive for other people.
The other benefit of coming out in the 10% and going as hard as you can as the bully is that we know who you are and what you're all about, and we can choose to have nothing else to do with you for the rest of our lives.
So give us a chance; please show your hand.
Blog Post Number - 3764
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