John (Gibson) taught me this just a couple of weeks ago.
He was kind enough to do a Zoom podcast recording for me again as part two of the series I did with him from earlier in the year.
We were talking about what to do with people who don't tell the truth or what to do when things go wrong or just go the way you didn't expect.
I was writing a podcast episode for later in the year, called ‘call the liar’ where I thought I was being clever and smart about calling out a football guy who was horrible and really showing what horrible looks like in boys’ football.
John changed that.
His monologue at the end of that podcast will be a showstopper.
Something for us to write down, to put on the wall, to remember always in our interactions with other people.
I recounted the story today in the consultation masterclass with a dozen really committed practitioners who are keen to make everything a lot better in their practices and who’d be liable to take this type of stuff onboard.
It's fine to call out people when they do things wrong.
When they tell lies about a frozen pitch at football or when they send the wrong person the wrong equipment for an ILS course, when your team are sitting waiting for someone to come or any other number of reasons.
It's fine to suggest that that wasn't the right thing to do but it's always best to do it with compassion.
After he said that on the Zoom call (which I have now watched several times) I wondered what the story was behind the other football coach that day.
I wondered what was happening in his life or how his life might be linked to football results because everything else was a mess.
I felt sorry and I feel like a d*ck, and that's probably right.
With compassion, it's a good life lesson, a good adage to live by, I think.
Blog Post Number - 3381
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