Understanding that what you have done, or said, or produced has upset someone or even a large group of people is the first step towards conflict resolution in many cases.
Peoples lack of ability to step 'outside the zone' in the middle of conflict and see the damage being caused on both sides and the hurt that is being inflicted 360° often staggers me (no more so than when I realise I have done it myself)
One of the main issues in times like this though is peoples 'perceptions' of what has been said or peoples 'perceptions' of what has been done. This is a very difficult one to deal with and if you think you will alter someones perceptions by shouting at them, bullying them or denying them something then I think generally you are utterly deluded.
You have to decide whether what you're looking for is a break in hostilities or a genuine resolution to a conflict. In dealing with peoples deep seated beliefs it's very unlikely that force will lead to conflict resolution.
Best to ask yourself "Have I given enough?" or "Have I given all I can in the possibility of resolving the conflict?"
From an entirely selfish point of view, resolution of conflict allows you to work on something else that's good instead of spending hours and hours of time and emotional energy rehearsing conversations or berating yourself for things you never said.
Conflict resolution always starts with you and not them.
Blog Post Number: 1124
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