In general terms revenge is toxic.
Waiting for the moment to strike, to bring down your advisory will eat you up and distract you from doing stuff which is much better and much more productive than the wait to exact your retribution.
I remember a story of someone I used to work with, who saw his car being vandalised by a neighbour because he’d parked in the ‘wrong spot’ and waited three months before attaching a high tensile steel cable to the subframe of the neighbours car and then to a lamppost only to come out in the morning to watch the neighbour try to drive away and pull the top off his car.
“Revenge is a dish best served cold”.
Most of the time when it comes to serving the dish, it has gone off.
There are some situations though, a perceived point of principle, where it seems like the right thing to do and almost necessary to try to teach someone a lesson.
Inevitably though, you are ‘wresting with pigs in sh*t’ and trying to convince someone of your argument by shouting at them (or exacting sly revenge) is unlikely to change their behaviour.
Such a circumstance has occurred recently for me (details best left right away from this post) where I’ve been put in a situation where it seems quite obvious to myself and others that someone is trying to play me and there are two or three incidences now where that becomes more and more obvious that revenge is being exacted upon me.
One of the things about taking revenge is that you’re never absolutely sure what weapons or strategies exist in your opponents locker.
With regards to this situation, I have my finger on a nuclear button and can press it as soon as I like.
I can explode a bomb so close to them that it will damage them much more than they have or would be able to damage me.
But is this a sensible thing to do?
Perhaps better in these circumstances (if you can possibly find the moral fibre- and it’s hard and I often can’t) is to take your ball and go home.
Suffocating the individual from oxygen and paying little attention is perhaps the best thing to do.
Moving onto better, more positive and more powerful things and becoming more content and more ‘successful’ is perhaps the greatest revenge you can inflict.
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