It's tough at the top, isn't it?
So is the stuff at the bottom, too!
We have some signs in our practice, as you go through the doors downstairs, that say 'game face' on them.
Game face when you go to the clinic, game face in front of the patient.
It's all right to be sad upstairs; it's not all right to be sad downstairs. We're on show when we're downstairs for our clients, for our customers.
The same thing actually applies upstairs when the guys come on a course. They don't need to know the sh*t that I'm going through and how difficult it is at work or the people I'm having a fight with, they don't need to know that my wife and I were shouting at each other when we left the house this morning, and my kids are driving me mad, or I came downstairs in the morning to the biggest pile of dog sh*t you've ever seen even though I never had any time to clean it up.
My wife and I are discussing whose role that day was the least important that could stop to pick up a pile of dung.
That's not what people want.
It doesn't mean that you shouldn't have someone you can talk to, and it doesn't mean the support networks are not extraordinarily important, but it does mean, particularly as a leader, that you do not have to bring that stuff to work.
It's really important that you model the behaviour that you would like to see in the people that you work with.
It's really important that you model happiness and contentment, health and well-being, energy and brightness, awareness and innovation.
All of those things come from you, not from them.
They look to you to see that, and they look to you to see how we are expected to behave.
It's up to you every single day that you go; you get to choose how you behave and every single day that you behave the way that you want others to, they move closer to you in the way that they behave.