Hurt

I think experience is learning from hurt.

I think older people are more experienced generally because they have been hurt more, the ones who are able to survive, the hurt rise to become the most experienced.

We learn from hurt to modify our behavior and to protect ourselves. Most of us alter our environment or our behaviors to keep the hurt away, therefore becoming experienced at doing the things that don’t hurt.

We also learn that when we do hurt we recover (at least to a point) and therefore it becomes harder to hurt us again.

I think we call experience the ability to navigate through the hurt. When you become experienced it doesn’t mean you won’t hurt again, but then the hurt will not be new and you will understand the passage through.

There is a trend in very successful people who lost parents at a very young age. I wonder if they hurt so much that very little could hurt them again, as they have become experienced very young. I know many people who have been through a GDC case in dentistry. For some it was the end, as it hurt so much that they had to stop and for those who didn’t stop, they learned and will not be hurt the same again.

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